I overcame my FFXIV raid anxiety and the horrible history and past drama with old raid groups. I cleared P9S, P10S and P11S in …
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I overcame my FFXIV raid anxiety and the horrible history and past drama with old raid groups. I cleared P9S, P10S and P11S in …
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Clearing P9S, P10S and P11S in under 3.5 hours was one of the most powerful steps moving forward for me. I feel like I've overcame a ton of pain, trauma and horrible totally disturbing drama that I was tangled in. I am still in pain. But this was one of the best ways that I could reclaim parts of myself that I lost.
Big hugs and hope you get better.
It was a great time blasting through these floors with you. You rarely ever made the same mistake twice and I'm suuuuper looking forward to P12S. You're good at this game, and I'm glad I could help you prove that to yourself. Now keep up that motivation and I bet you'll be at our prog point in P12S by the halfway point tomorrow if not sooner.
Lots of hugs ❤ move on and know you’re better. And you ARE since you cleared the tier without them. So be proud of yourself !
I swear, reading those DMs just confirms to me how much better off you are without him. The few times you were discussed long ago in VC was grating on me because I didn't quite trust what was being said since it all sounded similar to how I was treated. I hope you will be able to be completely over this soon, you deserved better. :V
Stand proud, you are strong
Even clearing out a savage raid in the current expansion is awesome. Years back after Stormblood was out, we did Tsukuyomi (which was really hard at the time). People in the group were toxic, like wanted perfection for healers and tanks to not die. Died once, you get kicked then called "trash" for failing to keep alive. We succeeded but long story short, healer in our team got harassed to the point she was sobbing I gave up Savage raids permanently years ago. I hope things get better for you and I love your content. Before I quit FFXIV, I always linked your upcoming patch vid to old FC I was in because it was very helpful!
on another note about hard ingame content, I enjoyed doing my blue raids to get my morbol mount. It is probably my proudest achievement so far.
What does minimum wage have to do with raiding? Completely unrelated….. so TOXIC… Heal up. Youre a good guy Cole and youre better off without him.
When you're hurting, people naturally want to know why–but you have absolutely no obligation to share anything until you're ready to talk about it. Anyone who really cares about you will wait however long it takes.
I'm glad to see you're back out there tearing it up again. Good luck with the rest of the tier, Cole.😁
sorry to hear all of this happening hope you next expasion you will have a wonderful time and an amazing raid group love you videos and we know you got this 😇
Proves games are healing especially from BS situations that people don’t deserve to go through.
So sorry this happened to you! No one should be treated that way. 😢
I've seen alot of your videos and you seem like a really nice guy with a good heart. I'm sorry for what you are going through but you will be stronger even if it maybe doesn't feel like it now. Think of your accomplishments and be proud, that's who you are.
I'm sorry you have anxiety but I believe you need to focus on some real life actions that will make you more confident….being more skilled in a game is a temp confidence that you lost every time a new raid comes out. Go out and meet people, get a job that requires you to talk to people, date more and put yourself in situations where you are more functional as a human male. Become successful in life…and confidence and anxiety will disappear.
ho my shit and bananas what even happen here D: i just come to hear some good contetn and i end up hearring cole criying D: baby boi u ok? i wish u the best (i actually will watch this likel 2 time i dont get it all D: best wishsshes)
Hey, you talk if and when you want to talk about it, and if you don't want to talk about it, it's up to us to respect your decisions.
It is never an obligation to make a video about your private life. Never feel like you should have to at any point in your life.
yikes
i saw you at a hunt train – i was scared to say hi.
Also there is no need to mix bag a FFXIV channel with IRL stuff. I dont think you should even disclose anything at all. Unless you want to. But i dont think it is good for people to do that in social media.
Your life is a soap opera. I’m sorry you’ve gone through all of this but I cannot lie I am entertained! You should be proud of yourself for clearing p10s so quickly. That was this tier’s static killer.
mannn just the "Nice grey parse" and "Also he makes minimum wage" comments alone speak volumes to his character. Chin up buddy, you don't have to take that crap from anybody. Grats on the clears, good luck in P12.
Who the hell brags about stealing someone's man?
My heart goes out to you. we all have been hurt before but no one deserves to go through this bullshit. I hope you heal and find your center. Just remember we are here for you to try to help you move forward and find your own happiness again.❤❤😢
New to the channel .
1st off never feel like u need ro explain personal life drama .
2nd the fact you went and beat the tier after finding a new group sounds like your better off already .
3rd always remember there will alaways be toxic elite pricks in every game especially when it comes to raiding always the case and people that are toxic should just be banned , i would love to raid with u , cause you seem legit and fun to be around .
Final note you a good pwrson that deserves to find a decent static group that are a joy to be around .
Chin up and dont let toxic assholes get you down they aint worth the time or place in this world
Im a super ancient gay, followed you from the start. I wasted so much of my life on focusing on dickheads who cheated on me, it’s my only real regret. I promise one day you won’t be easily able to remember his name, you wonderful human being ❤
This is truly DESPICABLE behaviour and I'm pleased to see you are moving forward now.
Thank you for telling us these things in your personal life. You didn't have to, but we appreciate it, and we appreciate you. You deserved those clears, and you deserve to be happy. It's more than just a game when it can help us grow and heal. Take your time. Your community is here for you!
Hi Cole, I played WoW with parse in Mythic raids, and it's a complete pain in the ass because other people use that information as a weapon. They might say things like, Why is your parse so low? or You should improve your DPS!. That's why I moved to FFXIV in Shadowbringers, and I just cleared P9S, P10S, and P11S without worrying about parse. Honestly, that's why I like the tank role. If someone mentions my parse, I just ignore them and focus on surviving, changing aggro, and protecting someone when needed. So don't worry about it 🙂
It may sound crass or unhelpful but I was talking to a friend about this and I agree with them. At the very least you found out who you were dealing with now, before marriage and everything that brings. Keep on it man, loved hearing you on the WorktoGame podcasts.
You don’t need to share your personal life if you don’t want to. I hope things go well for you. There is nothing wrong with breaks if you need it. Hope you can have fun with ffxiv when dawntrail comes out. Hugs
Did you say Annabussy O's? I'm. Dead.
/dead
Please take some rest, you don't need to force yourself to make videos or play games, they are and we are still here when you are ready 💕
I hope you will clear this tier and find ultimate release!
You need the biggest hug right now my man… but levinstrike for 2 months.. damn.