If you’re not having fun I can’t think of a single good reason why you should force yourself through a raid tier. I’ve been forced given recent awful events to reevaluate raiding. To the betrayers, I genuinely wish you nothing but peace and good things in life– I really do. Be at peace, but you’ll never be a part of my life again.
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Timestamps:
0:00 Raiding is Pointless if you aren’t having fun
0:15 Glamour
0:48 Best in slot is totally pointless
1:09 Clout and Reputation
2:28 Even Ultimate Weapons Mean NOTHING Anymore
2:40 Clout is madness
3:03 PUSHING THROUGH A TIER AND NEGATIVITY
4:20 I LOVE RAIDING! I REALLY DO!
4:38 Your raid group MAKES OR BREAKS your experience
6:47 My dad does NOT have cancer THANK GOD
7:20 I’ve been forced to reassess my own raid goals.
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I just noticed rewatching that my paint comment was clipped off "non consensual blah blah blah" is referring to when I was non consensually well you get it. I'm a victim of that and struggle with it years later. Left me bashed and bruised on the side of the road. So that being clipped kinda makes me sad but won't reupload. I'm sad that even all these years later I still struggle with that.
And here Im happy with my shiny manderville weapon lol, savage and ultimate is not appealing to me… better watch it on youtube
Damn Cole. I hope you get your headspace figured out. I don't mean that as a dig, I'm being genuine. You sound really angry and bitter, and from the screenshots and your explanation, you have every right to be. Just hope you get back to enjoying the game or anything your doing. Much love.
As a final fantasy raider. I understand where you’re coming from, but I raid bc I enjoy learning how to do difficult mechanics. I enjoy seeing myself get better at the game numbers included. I also use the information and pass it on to my friends and guild members helping them clear later on. I don’t know if it’s valid to paint with such a wide brush. The raiding community is already small and yes there’a elitism and drama. Blacklist move on and have your fun with the people you care about. I’m truly sorry you had a really bad experience. Hopefully you don’t give up and can find a way to have fun. That’s all that matters. 😊
Cole honestly say something nice at this point its just winging
I just wanna complete one ultimate legend mostly with top also what's up with your voice I prefer the old one or is it the boyfriend talking today
This sounds like personal problem, stay strong sir. Hope you well. And raiding is fun or not, pointless or not, it's more like you do you, i do i. Other people's opinions doesn't matter if i enjoy what i do.
Is this channel run by 2 people?? Dude sounds way different Edit: nvm I read some of the other comments
So. Question. Would it be better if at the start if a raid tier, the gear you earned last tier SLOWLY become obsolete?
ie. The first raid makes accessories obsolete, 2nd head/feet, 3rd chest/pants, etc etc as normal. Completely removing tome gear as an option altogether?
Im sorry shitty people made you Have such a shitty experience, no one should go through that.
Cole, I hope that things start to level out for you soon, because no one should have to go through that crap. I was honestly bummed to see you complaining about viewing metrics and such in some of the other recent videos, and thought about unsubbing entirely. I know that doesn't mean much, I'm just one rando, but I think you've got enough backing as a data analyst from your past videos to looking some of the analytical aspects with the game as a whole, both in game, current content, and future possible jobs, relic steps, etc. I feel like you could fill that niche that seems to be missing from the scene, and may even help rekindle some of the enjoyment of the game from playing and analysis.
Hang in there man, hope to hear about your guy's TEA clear in the future and that the next tier is worth every minute of raiding with the friends you're with now
I feel this so hard. My last FC was like this with me. Got to the point where I did everything on my own and when I did my first savage in p1s there was one toxic person that that got in my nerves and I wish I could cus him out without it being a paper trail. As to that a clenched jaw from concentration and tons of time, I had a book to show for my trouble. I may go back again but not really sure.
Still, this people that treated you like that. Screw them. You are a better person and they took advantage of your good heart. You did nothing wrong.
3:03 I have definitely pushed myself to the point of not enjoying raiding anymore. Last tier's savage prog was rough, and then we went right into bad DSR prog, and it burned me out so much that I haven't even bothered to clear this tier, though I've slowly been making my way through P8S, only because I want to unlock TOP now instead of later. I keep trying to take breaks but I have friends who seem to not understand or not respect the fact that I don't wanna play anymore and keep trying to get me to come back.
Who did the voice over?
Hey Cole, I watch the last both and I feel in the same way I make DSR atm as AST. My dmg is high and the chance that the PF give you a chance is small. You have to play perfekt or you are a griefer. But I wont give up and go my why. But it hurts much. I hope that I can belive your pain and I am happy to here that you find a way. My Way is to go on my way in EU witch much people on BL me. But I am going to be happy if DSR is done. Because I played since august 2013 and HW was the Addon I loved and love now. So it going to be the end of the Havendsward(like the Book at the #######)^^ Whats than Idk. I only wanted to say that you are not alone! Wish you all the best from the Mr Greyheal Marius Heilstos from Odin (EU)
Hey man how can we be friends in game? My IGN is Bastian Zaphire and I feel like we can relate a lot (my bf isn’t a doctor though heh). I totally understand the stress of everything you just said and have been having a hard time enjoying this game with like minded players. I’m on Sarg right now but I could go to any server ❤️
Hey Cole, I don’t have much to say, except that I hope you will feel better really soon and will be able to just enjoy raiding! Hugs and see you around big cat boi!
Hang in there Cole, don’t let the haters get to you. I feel just like you about all the best in slot stuff. I play for fun and to enjoy my time with the friends I made in game. I don’t really care about clout or who has done what content.I am not a raider I don’t have time to be raiding all like that. So most if not all end game raids I will pass on. I never do raids on content only after everyone and their grandma has done them will I even try to do one and it will always be unsynced with full echo. So yeah for me. Best in slot is meaningless. But I just wanted to should support to you because I do enjoy your videos and I hope that this drama will pass you by with you feeling very little stress or negativity about it. So please take care of yourself both mentally and physically.
I don’t really understand this. It sounds like you are sick of raiding because of the people? Has the raid community as a whole become more toxic? If so, is this something just started to happen this tier? Also, it sounds like the raiding community is so small that a few people’s toxicity are affecting the entire community? Just trying to understand what’s going on. I don’t raid but am thinking about trying it out.
literally my mindset man i feel ya, much love. I hate dickwads that feel some sort of god complex for having bis, clearing the latest ultis, or a high parse. Been in many statics for ultis and shit is fucking miserable, i dont play a game for it to be like a job once i have to be there certain times every week for certain hours im mentally clocked out and no longer want to be there. This video was just nice in general and just reaffirmed everything i feel about raiding. Hope you feel better about everything soon <3
Hey Cole, I noticed the difference in tone of your voice. Hope you will feel better soon. In terms of raiding depression and people coming and going (or backstabbing) I've been there myself for YEARS. Raiding on and off both in WoW and FF and not getting much satisfaction out of it. It's only recently that joining a more casual savage guild (but not too casual) where everyone is chill as hell, sure we might prog slower but raiding with them is infinitely better than any recent group I can think of where we progged faster with egotistic players (as you say which is pointless to begin with since noone gives a shit). I rediscovered the joys of raiding with a good bunch of people again, not only decent players, but good people too, that's the important thing here and so I've started to really enjoy raiding again and find myself also wanting to login to hang out with them and chat with them which I honestly haven't felt since my TBC/WotLK days with 10 man guilds. Good luck with your TEA group and I hope you'll feel better soon and you will bounce back!
Just to justify my personal experience raiding currently: this is my first tier and I started Savage about 5 weeks ago. I've been enjoying getting a little bit further each week, and am incredibly proud of myself to have cleared P7S last Monday, and topped DPS on RDM in the clear party this week despite the pug group (loot, duty complete) being unable to clear. I do it because I really enjoy raiding and it's what I find fun. I'd love to get the dyeable Chestpiece for Casters from P8S, and really hope that I can achieve that goal before 6.4. I respect your opinions on humility, and it is a sexy trait. People that need to bring others down to lift themselves up ruin it for everyone else, and I hope that as the game continues to age, the playerbase will mature and we'll begin to see an even better community. Love these talks Cole, hoping you start feeling a bit better ❤
Probably why i dont do savage or extreme anymore when its current, its too much stress.
i agree fully the issue with raiders was and is ways the ego thin k and for content creators it a reeason i dont watch xeno or other raiders it never more then drama and raiding and it most the drama that brings the view but the truth is most ppl dont care for raiding and dont watch ppl for the raids there is a reasson ppl get 10 times the views when they do story and not raids .
Haha circular loop best description ive heard love it !
This tear is just too hard. Been to enrage multiple times. Gonna wait the 10% demage up. Just too hard to be fun.
Mate, please take some time off if you need it.
Fellow software engineer here, burnout is real. I found balancing team dynamics and day-to-day development at work used so many of the same parts of my brain during work hours as dealing with a raid group and progression in the evenings. I couldn't do both – not well, at least – and recognising that was disappointing, but put me on the right path, I think. I've always a fan of what you do on YouTube, but if you need to give at a rest – and not to pry, but it sounds like you do – then please just give it a rest. I'd still just tune in for chill island sanctuary vids or something.
I needed to hear this… While I haven’t been grinding my wheels every week in PF for any clout, and I truly love the progression and just love the fights I myself often go through my general bout of frustration or feelings of “Why am I even doing this?” when I don’t even get close to clearing a tier or only reach the phase 1 enrage because I often put IRL above my gaming and play when I can, but with that being said… I do also tell myself, “I do this because it’s something to do in my spare time that isn’t housework, chores, and it’s a hobby that provides me a few hours every week of self time” and it’s either that or play by myself in Elden Ring or some other difficult game. But I often always keep coming back to XIV every week because it’s at least somewhat more social and not as solo. That being said, I do often feel a bit upset when I don’t even clear a tier because those feelings of “Wow… I spent all this time every week and now it’s rotated to something else to start the treadmill all over again” but then I also have to remember it’s a marathon, not a sprint. They design this content to be enjoyed over the course of the patch cycle so if I’m slow or don’t even clear or it takes me all patch cycle to clear, then I at least got a few hours every week challenging myself and doing a hobby I enjoy (especially since I’m a huge FF fan). And in the end… does it really matter? At least I had something to do every week.
What the fuck, bro do you read off a script?
This was hilariously funny listen so basically for some stupid reason people in FFXIV dont have guilds with members they like to play with.
They form STATICs with randoms for sole purpose of beating current "raid"= bunch of square,circle roooms and then disband and they repeat it on each release lol.
Everything is pointless, even if you're having fun. Take the blackpill, sing the song of oblivion.
Fuck me, that's rough what you've been through man. It's hard to keep the group together when irl gets in the way but boy you got a real rough hand with those raid crews. Here's to next layer man, hope it reinvorgates your sense of fun.
I put my subscription of FF14 on pause since November of 2022. Our Fc took massive break from the game because the vicious cycle of raiding and Bis. The Fc Leader logs on occasionally ( so our Fc mansion doesnt blow up ) fortunately the members know each other irl so it reduces the chances of drama. So I fully relate to your rant and burnout of the game , my advice to you is take a break from the game.
Standing Ovation
Ego andys ruin the desire for most people to attempt raiding in this game and then they sit on LFG discords wondering why nobody wants to raid.
it made me tear up listening to this bc i feel so hard for you, but then the "ive been bitten hard (but not in the sexy way)" got me, lmfao. i'm sorry you've had to deal with so many abusive assholes though, and good on you for not letting it change who you are. honestly, as much as i personally used to regret not seeing red flags in people i've gotten close to before & wished i'd never given them the time of day, i'm grateful now that at least i learned from those experiences and i'm not as naive, even if frankly that kind of stuff does leave you pretty damaged and it's hard to live with even after they're out of your life. it's a process i guess 🙁 but hang in there, and take all the time you need to heal.